Monthly Archives: June 2012

23 Weeks

How far along: 23 weeks completed 06.12.2012

Weight gain: My next appointment with the midwives is Monday the 25th. Until then, it’s anyone’s guess. I guess 5. No, 50! No, wait, 5. Well . . . lemme think about it.

Clothes: My long tanks from Target (one of the biggest staples in my wardrobe) are starting to be . . . well, not quite long enough. I think I can make them stretch for a few more weeks, but I will soon need more torso coverage (yes, my torso is ridiculously long). I own three maternity tanks (in black and grey, and one with stripes–I’m wearing the black one in these pictures) and I may have to bust out some cash money to get more. I can’t have my pregnant midriff popping out–thatsa no good-a.

Purchases: Nothing this week. But I’m scheming.

Scheming along the lines of a raid on the Clybourne Ave. Salvation Army, where I will find all their cutest little girl dresses and make off with them into the night!

Body: Depending on what I wear, it can still look like I just ate a big meal instead of the real situation–that I’m actually growing a baby. The other day when I put on a cream-colored blouse to head out to work, my husband said, “Wow, you don’t look pregnant from the front at all.” I gave him an aggressive profile view. “How about now?” I asked. “Well . . .,” he pondered, “I don’t know if you look pregnant as much as . . .’what the heck is going on there?'”

He was right, and I knew it.

So in conclusion, I almost want to wear more belly-emphasizing clothes just so I’m not feeling defensive about looking pudgearrific when I prance about the city.

Sleep: It’s great! I wake up to pee about 3 times per night, but I kind of enjoy being up in the wee hours and getting to tell myself “oooooh . . . look at that! You have 3 more hours of delicious, delectable sleep! That’s enough time for another awesome dream!”

Best moment(s) of the week: Praying for our little girl has been wonderful. When I was in church and I was praying with Eric and Carrie before leading worship, I prayed that my little one would also be praising God while we sang. During the sermon, I prayed that God would be teaching her some of the same things we were learning. And I wonder if he was–because she was moving about like crazy.

Movement: Every few hours! And I love it just as much as ever. Even when she gives me the old jab to the bladder, which she has taken a liking to doing when I’m headed to or home from the grocery store. She’s there–she’s connected to me–and being reminded of that with her acrobatics is so precious.

Food cravings/aversions: Not much to report here. Except that I’ve been eating 3 meals a day–breakfast lunch and dinner–during my pregnancy for possibly the first time in my life (since I was a kid). When I was a teenager I boycotted breakfast (to the chagrin and distress of my parents). When I was in college I boycotted lunch. After college I boycotted many meals, sometimes just doing dinner at night, up until this very year. But when I found out I was having a baby, I knew that had to change immediately. So I did! And you know, it’s not a bad gig, this whole eating more frequently thing.

Symptoms: The occasional leg cramp, which I combat by flexing my foot. Having to pee almost constantly. Feeling more tired than I think I should. Nothing to complain about!

Emotions: Guys, I feel so much better than last week. Still a little up and down, overall more tired than I’d like, but much more at peace.

Hopes and dreams: I am now allowing myself to dream about our new apartment–because we signed a lease! We’re right next to the Devon Market, near the Loyola red line stop. Our lease starts August 15th, and we have a 2 week overlap with our old lease to give us time to move without too much of a crunch. After many years of craptastic kitchens and compromises to save money, I’m so excited about all the nice bits of this new place. Like the kitchen, which is lovely and wonderful . . . the in-unit laundry which we will experience for the first time in our marriage (I’m thinking we can get away with only 2 more trips to the laundromat until then? But maybe that’s wishful thinking . . .). And two bathrooms, with our own private one connected to the master bedroom! It’s seems so–decadent. Luxurious. We are certainly thankful. I know we can live and be happy in any conditions (and we have lived in many), but the blessing of this nicer space right before the Little Wa-Wa arrives just floods my heart with thankfulness to God, who didn’t have to give us all this–but did.

What I miss: Being able to wear all my clothes. I’m starting to feel restricted in my wardrobe selections, and I don’t know if I like where this is headed . . .

What I’m looking forward to: Entering the final trimester of pregnancy, which will happen July 10th. It seems like such a huge landmark–a thrilling one! And starting our Bradley Method classes Monday evening. I’ll tell you all about it during next week’s update!

Husband update:  He’s feeling really excited about our new apartment too, as the place where we will make the big change from couple to family.

Every time I feel our little girl move and my husband is within my reach, I feel compelled to grab his hand and push it onto my belly. “Do you feel that???” I ask. And then he does–and his eyes get wide. I love sharing those moments with him.

I love hearing him dream about the future and say things like “Jenna, this fall we’ll be hanging out in bed, just like this . . . but our little one will be right here with us.” It makes me tear up every time.

Love you guys!! Have a great weekend everyone! And speaking of laundromats, guess where we’ll be Saturday afternoon . . .

Two men and their tea

Having my brother-in-law John living with us this summer has been an unlooked for blessing. He’s been with us for a little over 4 weeks now, occupying the second bedroom, hanging out with us, jogging on the lake, reading tons and tons, and (this week) starting a summer job at Crate & Barrel before going back to Wabash College in the fall for his senior year.

I’m so glad things have worked out this way, because with the age difference between John and my husband, John was only 9 or 10 when my husband moved away to go to college. So with this summer situation, they are finally getting a chance to get to know each other as adults.

They are both passionate readers of non-fiction, interested in philosophy and history, and love to talk about all of these things.

It’s great that John can engage my wonderfully smart spouse in all things academic, because sometimes I can find these topics a little . . . dry. Not always! But sometimes.

Dry? my husband asks, furrowing his brow. But I don’t understand . . .

*I refer anyone with questions back to my fiction vs nonfiction post from the days of the dawning of this blog.*

John is also an avid, willing, and gracious dish-doer. When he hears me clunking around in the kitchen, suddenly he’s there at the sink, washing whatever I just dirtied.

And not only does he wash, but oh baby–he also dries and puts away. And he does all of this completely unbidden.

It’s like a kitchen miracle.

The other day, when my husband was out of commission with a fever, holed up in our darkened bedroom, John helped me make dinner for my bandmates Eric and Carrie, plus our friends Zane and Julie. After dinner, Zane, Eric, Carrie and I gallivanted off for a band photo shoot (Zane is an amazing photographer–I can’t wait to show you all the awesome shots he got). After the salad, the bread and cheese, the pasta and the bolognese sauce, there were piles upon piles of dishes. “John, don’t worry about this–I’ll get it when I come back from the photo shoot,” I assured him.

John then proceeded to clean the entire kitchen while we were off taking pictures.

What a guy–some girl is going to count herself blessed among women.

Anyway, we don’t just keep him around for his dish-doing capacities. He and my husband have been bonding over . . . guess what . . .

. . . no, not beer . . . no, not grilling or tossing around a pigskin or whatever male people sometimes do, but over . . .

. . . tea!

Almost every evening, and frequently two or three times throughout the evening, they brew tea in a teapot. Sometimes they’ll read, or talk, or sit on the couch, but one day I came home after dinner with some girlfriends to this adorable vision. The boys had set up John’s radio, and were playing checkers, listening to the radio, and drinking tea.

A sweeter sight I have never seen.

I think I’ll keep them both around.

Love,

The Girl Who Beat the Boys at Clue Master Detective Before John Even Made it into a Room to Make his First Guess

(sorry, just had to sneak that in there)