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Ikea happened to us.

The last Wednesday in August, we went to Ikea. “We” included me and my husband, my mom, and my mother-in-law Sara.

In preparation for the trip, my husband and I made an exhaustive list of everything we were looking for (measurements included). But no amount of preparation can really ready the soul for a day of shopping in this massive store.

We were there for (wait for it . . . wait for it . . . wait for it . . .)

. . . 10 1/2 hours. From about 40 minutes after the store opened until right after the store closed. We ate there no less than 3 times–lunch (Swedish meatballs!), a revitalizing coffee/cupcake snack, and dinner (mozzarella panini!).

To explain why we were there so friggin’ long, you must know that a lot was going on–we were shopping for a bedroom set, a crib, shoe benches for our entry area, shelving, bins, a CD/DVD storage shelf, and about a million other things which required a lot of deliberation. My mom was also looking around for benches and chairs for her new house, and Sara was window-shopping for couches and livingroom furniture for her new house.

To add to that, there was a snafu in which two Ikea reps (on two different floors, involving two different computer searches) told us at the end of our time there while we were placing our order for delivery service (well, what we thought was the end of our time there) that the dresser we wanted was sold out. So we reconfigured our bedroom furniture plan and switched out the dresser to another slightly less desirable one, only to discover after checking out that there were piles and piles of the exact piece we wanted in the middle of the warehouse area floor. Which involved trips through Customer Service and Returns to get back to our original order.

All in all, it’s very hard to nail an adjective to the experience. Was it fun? No, not “fun” per se . . . but was it hellish? No, not hellish or even especially miserable . . . It was just kind of stunning. Not stunning as in beautiful, but stunning as in getting stunned.

It’s something akin to that blank sense of surprise when something hits you hard, and though you can’t feel the effects yet, you know they’re coming in about 2 seconds. You’re in a strange limbo that can only be described as The Void Before the Pain.

I love Ikea because I love all the things we got (and the prices at which we got them!). But do I love shopping at Ikea?

We’ll just say that I survived it.

And that I need at least 3 years before I’ll be ready for another such trip.

And that if and when that next trip ever happens, I need my mom.

35 Weeks

How far along: 35 weeks completed 09/04/2012.

Weight gain: I had a check-up with the midwives on Tuesday, and I netted the same as 2 weeks ago (147 lbs, for a total pregnancy weight gain of 14 lbs). Thankfully the midwife I saw didn’t seem concerned at all.

“Are you eating more than you used to?” she asked.

“Yes!” I cried, determined to convince her that I’m not undereating. “I just had a banana and a Mexican pastry chock full of cream and a big cup of coffee for breakfast, and I’m about to buy a bagel!”

“Well,” she said, “just try to eat another half a sandwich per day. But the baby is measuring and sounding great!”

In short: nothing to worry about. She even told me I didn’t have to come in to my appointment next week, so there you have it.

Clothes: After our amazing and hideous and incredible and painful and marvelous Ikea trip last week (more about that soon), my clothes now have a home again: a dresser! And a closet! However, having unpacked everything into these lovely pieces of furniture, I’m having trouble quickly locating my baby-belly-friendly clothes. I think I need to go back to the old drill of planning out my outfit the night before, which I’d recently become a little lazy about.

Purchases: Our Ikea trip resulted in a ton of stuff, and as for specifically baby-related purchases, we now have a crib and a crib mattress. And don’t get me started on bins–I’m writing a whole separate post about how bins are now my life. And there shall be no separation betwixt the Jenna and the bins for the remainder of her days.

Body: I’ve got some back pain (probably from lifting boxes and the like when I shouldna lifted), but other than that, no major changes from previous weeks.

Sleep: It’s been tough–a lot of waking up around 3am and just being awake for an hour or so. A lot of overheating in the night (hence one of my husband’s nicknames for me: “The Heater”). And restless leg syndrome up the wazoo. Hmmm . . . intermittent sleep . . . waking up at odd hours . . . fidgeting . . . am I having a baby or becoming a baby??

Best moment(s) of the week: The moment Monday evening when everything in our new apartment was moved into place, pictures were hung, etc., except for Alice’s room. I then swept the steps and dusted and vacuumed and experienced that wonderful feeling of domestic peace and order. One room to go!

Even after Alice’s room is set up, there are of course a few little things remaining to be done–printing pictures to put in the Ikea frames I hung in the 3rd bedroom, getting some kind of mat to stabilize a rug that slips and slides around like crazy, getting some hooks for the hallway shower so guests can hang up their washcloths–but nothing major.

Movement: I’d been thinking lil’ Alice was lying sideways, because for the past couple weeks there’s been a consistent hard lump to the left of my belly button, and consistent pushes of something on the right side of my belly. I figured the hard lump was her head and that she was extending her body and pushing her toes against my side. I had started thinking I should do some side lunges or some of the other movements recommended to encourage your baby to turn head-down.

Well, the pieces poking out on my right side are definitely her feet, but after the midwife investigated the situation on Tuesday, the bump in the middle is her bottom, and her head is down. Hallelujah!

Food cravings/aversions: Must eat more food. This shouldn’t be a problem.

Symptoms: Shortness of breath (my lungs are starting to feel the schmoosh) . . . a wall of tiredness around 3pm . . . annoying awakedness at 3am . . . some back pain . . . nothing too terrible. Basically, I’m feeling tired but good.

Emotions: I’m feeling the love! We spent Labor Day weekend with my in-laws, and my husband’s aunts (Laura, Louann and Missy) and cousin Kate came up as well. It was lovely to spend time with these funny, kind and wise women. I only wish they all lived closer so that I could see them more often. Anyway, we had a little baby celebration brunch, and they all pitched in to get us a car seat, the last remaining big-ticket item on our list. (Thank you thank you thank you!!) Of course, there was also some other fun stuff for baby and me thrown into the mix–in particular, a sleeper that looks like a ladybug, with a hat to match!

And then, to top things off, Tuesday my blogging friends led by the amazing Veronica all threw me a virtual baby shower. I feel so undeserving of all this love and attention . . . though that won’t take away from my enjoyment of the chocolate treats Veronica mailed, heh heh. Anyway, you should all check out their blogs and soak up the marvelousness of each one of them!

A Little Lunch (Eufaula, OK): Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice Scones
City Songbird (Greensboro, NC): Merry Christmas, Alice!
Eats Well With Others (New York, NY): Peanut Butter and Honey Ice Cream
Hunting for Bliss (Bozeman, MT): Garam Masala Deviled Eggs
Pinking Shears & Broccoli Spears (Newark, DE): Making Food Good For Your Baby
Sydney Shares (Eugene, OR): Baby BLTs 
That’s Some Good Cookin’ (Salt Lake City, UT): Cheesecake Cookie Bars
The Pajama Chef (Bloomington, IN): Iced Tea with Ginger-Mint Simple Syrup
Two Dogs In The Kitchen (Sterling, MI): Spicy Asian Meatballs
Veronica’s Cornucopia (Wichita, KS): Raspberry Almond Fudge Cookies
Very Culinary (Sacramento, CA): Toasted Orzo and Chickpea Salad
Words on Wendhurst: A Gift For Jenna and Alice

Sniff, sniff. Thanks gals! Sniff, sniff.

I’d also like to point out that though I’ve been crying quite a bit, it’s not because I’m sad! In fact, it’s become the signpost that I’m really, really tired. When the tears start falling and they start falling fast, that’s my cue to go take a nap.

And of course, I do have lots of emotions about meeting Alice. I’m excited, but to be honest, right now I’m not in a hurry to get to the end of my pregnancy. I’m enjoying carrying her around inside. I’m enjoying feeling her move. I’m enjoying still being a woman with no dependents, able to move freely. I’m enjoying being able to focus all of my at-home time on my husband. I’m in no rush for this to end . . .

. . . though I know when the time is right, I’ll be ready. I’ll have to be.

Hopes and dreams: I’m really digging how things are right now–in every sense. We have over a month to go before our little girl joins us in the outside world, we’re pretty much all moved in to our apartment, and now we can just enjoy our new space, each other, freeze meals, rest up, and chill out.

The other night, when our work for the day was done, my husband and I just sat in our livingroom for about an hour, looking at our surroundings, talking a little, and just kind of existing in a cloud of domestic bliss.

What I miss: Being able to push through tiredness without all this crying nonsense!

And I’m about to miss cow dairy products . . . a lot. That’s right: I’m giving them up 1 month before my due date (which is this coming Monday!) because of some info from a nutritionist who said that some infants can’t tolerate cow products for their first 3 weeks or so of life, and can become very colicky if they’re getting cow dairy from their mom during breastfeeding. And since cow dairy products take about a month to leave a person’s system, now’s the time for me to cut ’em out. Alice may not be sensitive to all this, but for me, it’s worth the chance of reducing the fussy factor.

I hope to find some good goat’s milk and sheep’s milk alternatives so that I can keep eating creamy stuff. (In case you missed the memo, I love creamy stuff.)

What I’m looking forward to: This evening. And tomorrow. And the next day. I’m looking forward to every single day before her birth, just being and enjoying and reveling.

Husband update: He’s so pleased to be almost fully moved in! Having peace at home gives him the mental freedom to focus more of his energies on his dissertation, which is what he really wants to be doing right now.

Also, I don’t know why this amazes me–it shouldn’t, after setting up house with my husband in 4 different places throughout our marriage–but he’s really darn good at organizing space. He tackled both the back closet (our cleaning/coats/luggage/shoes area) and the closet in the 3rd bedroom (for our instruments, photography stuff, sewing stuff, games, etc.) while I rested, and did an amazing job. If it had been up to me to whip those closets into order, I don’t think I could have matched what he did–not even close. He outdid any expectations I had for those closets. He’s got skillz. I should know this after being in a relationship for 11 years, but it’s still been a fun reminder of his awesomeness.

Enjoy your weekends everyone!